Can you stop for a moment? Just stop and spend some time with yourself and with me, please. Can you think about who you are in the context of the story you have been told? Or that you have searched for or the story you found? Or the story you believe about yourself? Can you... Continue Reading →
Food and Adoption and Love
I am listening to Anne Heffron's book You Don't Look Adopted on Audible. Anne is literally reading to me in my car while I drive the 30 minutes to and from work daily, and around Las Vegas as I live my life. Today, in Chapter 9, Anne read a line from her book and my... Continue Reading →
How Being Adopted Feels On Your Birthday
Happy Birthday to me. I am adopted. I woke up this morning at 6:02 am (PST). I looked at the clock and was suprised to see the time. I smiled. The unconscious self has a way of reminding the conscious self of Implicit Memories I was born 54 years ago today at 6:32 am in... Continue Reading →
Adoption Stories Require COURAGE
It take a lot of courage to walk through life as an unknown entity. For decades, I had no idea where my story began. This is true for many adoptees of the Babyscoop era of adoption. Somehow, we just showed up in a family and became theirs. This was true for me, too. The way... Continue Reading →
National Adoption Awareness Month – 2019
Here we are again, November 1st. If you have anything to do with the adoption world, you know that this is the month that was chosen to focus on all things ADOPTION. For me, it is the month I was born into the world and when my story began. In my life, my STORY has... Continue Reading →
The White Whisker
I found a white whisker on my chin. To some, this may be an annoyance. To others, it may be a reminder of aging. To still others, it may mean that it is time to get a facial. To me, it made me tear up and become emotional. Now, this is not the first time... Continue Reading →
Retreat 2.0 – Growth and Reflection
The morning after returning from a "big deal" feels like exhaustion and exhilaration mixed into your morning cup of milk. You know it tastes really good and you kind of need a nap. I returned last evening from the Beyond Adoption: YOU Retreat 2.0. This is the second retreat I have attended with Pamela Cordano... Continue Reading →
Reflections on Mothers and Adoption
It is a beautiful Saturday morning in Las Vegas. We have had rain the past two days and the left over coolness is still in the air. As I write, I find myself in a Starbucks with my chai tea and my thoughts. It is busy here. I see an older couple, talking softly to... Continue Reading →
When an Adoptee Brain Goes Offline
A few weeks ago, my brain disconnected from my heart and my body. It was as if I was a computer and I crashed. It was a "perfect storm" kind of day. When everything was perfect, happy, forward looking. Then, in a matter of moments, everything went down, spiraling and spinning and twisting in my... Continue Reading →