Courage is the Ability to Walk Through Fear with Faith ©
These are just a few of the things that have been said to me over the years: What is, "You look like your adopted mom / dad?" What is, "I bet you are glad your mother wasn't pregnant after Roe vs Wade!" (seriously, this was said to me....) What is, "I know an adoptee and... Continue Reading →
Many adoptees have been told in their lives that they are a mistake. That their birth mother "got in trouble," and that this "trouble" was a "mistake." What the adopted person hears is - "YOU are / were the trouble," and "YOU are / were the mistake." Those who are reading and who are not... Continue Reading →
Adopted children and adults have as sense of vulnerability that many in the non-adopted world do not have. This vulnerability comes from being removed from their biological family and then not being fully anchored in a family. This type of vulnerability is different than the type that allows a person to be open and share... Continue Reading →
This blog post is dedicated to Adoptee Connect with a heart full of gratitude. In September of 2018, a group of 5 people sat around a table. You could feel the nervous energy. This was the first official meeting of the Las Vegas Adoptee Connect Support group. I knew this was the start of something important.... Continue Reading →
In the Rocky 4 movie, Rocky has a memorable quote after he has finally beaten the Russian boxer Ivan Drago. Rocky is bloody, sweaty and exhausted, then he says to the Russian audience, "If I can change, and you can change, everybody can change...." This quote is important. Not just because it comes from a... Continue Reading →
53 years ago today, at 6:35 am in Henderson, Nevada, I was born. Today is my birthday. For 51 years of my life, on my birthday, I would have a personal dialogue in my mind. It went something like this: "Today is the day. My birthday! I know she (my birth mother) is wondering and... Continue Reading →
I am a person who loves Marvel, DC, Star Wars, and all super power, good vs evil type movies. I grew up watching the ORIGINAL Bat Man series (ka-boom, slam, wap...etc) and I love superhero metaphors in my therapy practice. Superhero Therapy is the BEST! In 2017, I found my biological family and my how-I-came-to-be... Continue Reading →
I have been mulling a pair of words in my mind for a long while now. These words are: CORE WOUNDING This term came out several months ago in a therapy session my therapist. The reason I have been thinking about this for some time is because of how I felt in my body when... Continue Reading →
If an adoptee trusts you, really trusts you, consider yourself the exception to the rule. For myself, and many other adoptees, trust does not come easily, or it is given so quickly that trust turns into betrayal. It may seem as though this sentence contradicts itself, but it is so true. Adoptees have been betrayed... Continue Reading →
