Can you stop for a moment? Just stop and spend some time with yourself and with me, please. Can you think about who you are in the context of the story you have been told? Or that you have searched for or the story you found? Or the story you believe about yourself? Can you... Continue Reading →
Food and Adoption and Love
I am listening to Anne Heffron's book You Don't Look Adopted on Audible. Anne is literally reading to me in my car while I drive the 30 minutes to and from work daily, and around Las Vegas as I live my life. Today, in Chapter 9, Anne read a line from her book and my... Continue Reading →
Adoptees – On Being “A Mistake”
Many adoptees have been told in their lives that they are a mistake. That their birth mother "got in trouble," and that this "trouble" was a "mistake." What the adopted person hears is - "YOU are / were the trouble," and "YOU are / were the mistake." Those who are reading and who are not... Continue Reading →
Adoptee Connect and Why Adoptees NEED Community
This blog post is dedicated to Adoptee Connect with a heart full of gratitude. In September of 2018, a group of 5 people sat around a table. You could feel the nervous energy. This was the first official meeting of the Las Vegas Adoptee Connect Support group. I knew this was the start of something important.... Continue Reading →
Adoptees are Super Heroes and SHEroes
I am a person who loves Marvel, DC, Star Wars, and all super power, good vs evil type movies. I grew up watching the ORIGINAL Bat Man series (ka-boom, slam, wap...etc) and I love superhero metaphors in my therapy practice. Superhero Therapy is the BEST! In 2017, I found my biological family and my how-I-came-to-be... Continue Reading →
The Core Wounding of Adoption
I have been mulling a pair of words in my mind for a long while now. These words are: CORE WOUNDING This term came out several months ago in a therapy session my therapist. The reason I have been thinking about this for some time is because of how I felt in my body when... Continue Reading →
Adoptees: To Trust or Not to Trust? That is the Question
If an adoptee trusts you, really trusts you, consider yourself the exception to the rule. For myself, and many other adoptees, trust does not come easily, or it is given so quickly that trust turns into betrayal. It may seem as though this sentence contradicts itself, but it is so true. Adoptees have been betrayed... Continue Reading →
Secrets in Adoption HURT Adoptees
Being born in 1965, during the Baby Scoop Era of adoption, there were many secrets. Here is a graph outlining what happened during that time, and into today regarding adoptions. I am a person who does not have their original birth certificate ( OBC ). It is sealed by the state of Nevada. I have... Continue Reading →
Adoptees are Searching for Something
Have you ever been hungry for something really good....but you have no idea what that really good thing might be? Then, someone asks you, "What do you want to eat?" And you say, "something good....but I don't know what....." This is the best way I can describe what it is like to search for something... Continue Reading →