Can you stop for a moment? Just stop and spend some time with yourself and with me, please. Can you think about who you are in the context of the story you have been told? Or that you have searched for or the story you found? Or the story you believe about yourself? Can you... Continue Reading →
Food and Adoption and Love
I am listening to Anne Heffron's book You Don't Look Adopted on Audible. Anne is literally reading to me in my car while I drive the 30 minutes to and from work daily, and around Las Vegas as I live my life. Today, in Chapter 9, Anne read a line from her book and my... Continue Reading →
Retreat 2.0 – Growth and Reflection
The morning after returning from a "big deal" feels like exhaustion and exhilaration mixed into your morning cup of milk. You know it tastes really good and you kind of need a nap. I returned last evening from the Beyond Adoption: YOU Retreat 2.0. This is the second retreat I have attended with Pamela Cordano... Continue Reading →
2019 ~ New Start, Reflections and Adoptedness
I got off track somewhere in the middle of November. I had made a goal to write every day during National Adoption Awareness Month....and here it is January 1, 2019 and I have not written in a long time. There is a reason. My dad fell, he spent some time in the hospital and rehab,... Continue Reading →
Things you should not say to an Adoptee for $500, Alex
These are just a few of the things that have been said to me over the years: What is, "You look like your adopted mom / dad?" What is, "I bet you are glad your mother wasn't pregnant after Roe vs Wade!" (seriously, this was said to me....) What is, "I know an adoptee and... Continue Reading →
Adoptees and their Sense of Self – “Where do I fit in?”
Adopted children and adults have as sense of vulnerability that many in the non-adopted world do not have. This vulnerability comes from being removed from their biological family and then not being fully anchored in a family. This type of vulnerability is different than the type that allows a person to be open and share... Continue Reading →
Adoptee Connect and Why Adoptees NEED Community
This blog post is dedicated to Adoptee Connect with a heart full of gratitude. In September of 2018, a group of 5 people sat around a table. You could feel the nervous energy. This was the first official meeting of the Las Vegas Adoptee Connect Support group. I knew this was the start of something important.... Continue Reading →
Adoptees are Super Heroes and SHEroes
I am a person who loves Marvel, DC, Star Wars, and all super power, good vs evil type movies. I grew up watching the ORIGINAL Bat Man series (ka-boom, slam, wap...etc) and I love superhero metaphors in my therapy practice. Superhero Therapy is the BEST! In 2017, I found my biological family and my how-I-came-to-be... Continue Reading →
Adoptees: To Trust or Not to Trust? That is the Question
If an adoptee trusts you, really trusts you, consider yourself the exception to the rule. For myself, and many other adoptees, trust does not come easily, or it is given so quickly that trust turns into betrayal. It may seem as though this sentence contradicts itself, but it is so true. Adoptees have been betrayed... Continue Reading →