As a clinician working with children in foster care, I have seen children placed, removed, moved, placed, removed, moved placed, removed in foster homes over and over again. Often, this causes the child to retreat within themselves, losing trust in the system and in adults...and in themselves. I call these incidents of interruption Attachment Injuries. ... Continue Reading →
Each year, November is recognized as National Adoption Awareness Month. While all adoption-related issues are important, the particular focus of the month is the adoption of children in foster care. (Full disclosure, I am a therapist who works with children in foster care - it is my passion) But, it has gotten away from the... Continue Reading →
During the month of November, I will have a daily blog about the Adoptee Experience. I hope you will read, share, think and engage with Adoptees as the Experts on Adoption. We have lived it every day of our lives.
This past week, I spent 5 days in Fort Worth, TX becoming a Trust Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI) Practitioner. This blog post is the story of how I came to know that TBRI is the key to the work I am so passionate about with children from hard places. (adopted, foster, abused, neglected.....you get the... Continue Reading →
I had the privilege of being interviewed by Haley Radke with the Adoptees On podcast recently and my 1st episode in a 2 part series on Grief airs today. You can listen here: //html5-player.libsyn.com/embed/episode/id/7039617/height/300/theme/custom/autoplay/no/autonext/no/thumbnail/yes/preload/no/no_addthis/no/direction/backward/render-playlist/yes/custom-color/0079b6/ As always, I hope for and welcome your feedback. And, stay tuned! In 2 weeks, part II of our conversation will... Continue Reading →
I have been paying attention to adoptees a lot lately. How they speak. How they look when they speak. What their hands are doing when they are speaking. How they relate to their own story. Where they over explain or under explain. How much they yearn for and how much they wish they could forget.... Continue Reading →
No more hiding. We are here and we have each other.
I often think of the many years I have spent trying to be who everyone expected me to be. Don't make mistakes. Don't get bad grades. Be seen, not heard. Behave. Be quiet. Do as I say. Sit here. Wear this. Don't get in trouble. No one ever "SAID" these things to me (well, "be... Continue Reading →