I have been mulling a pair of words in my mind for a long while now. These words are: CORE WOUNDING This term came out several months ago in a therapy session my therapist. The reason I have been thinking about this for some time is because of how I felt in my body when... Continue Reading →
If an adoptee trusts you, really trusts you, consider yourself the exception to the rule. For myself, and many other adoptees, trust does not come easily, or it is given so quickly that trust turns into betrayal. It may seem as though this sentence contradicts itself, but it is so true. Adoptees have been betrayed... Continue Reading →
Being born in 1965, during the Baby Scoop Era of adoption, there were many secrets. Here is a graph outlining what happened during that time, and into today regarding adoptions. I am a person who does not have their original birth certificate ( OBC ). It is sealed by the state of Nevada. I have... Continue Reading →
Have you ever been hungry for something really good....but you have no idea what that really good thing might be? Then, someone asks you, "What do you want to eat?" And you say, "something good....but I don't know what....." This is the best way I can describe what it is like to search for something... Continue Reading →
As a clinician working with children in foster care, I have seen children placed, removed, moved, placed, removed, moved placed, removed in foster homes over and over again. Often, this causes the child to retreat within themselves, losing trust in the system and in adults...and in themselves. I call these incidents of interruption Attachment Injuries. ... Continue Reading →
Each year, November is recognized as National Adoption Awareness Month. While all adoption-related issues are important, the particular focus of the month is the adoption of children in foster care. (Full disclosure, I am a therapist who works with children in foster care - it is my passion) But, it has gotten away from the... Continue Reading →
During the month of November, I will have a daily blog about the Adoptee Experience. I hope you will read, share, think and engage with Adoptees as the Experts on Adoption. We have lived it every day of our lives.
This past week, I spent 5 days in Fort Worth, TX becoming a Trust Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI) Practitioner. This blog post is the story of how I came to know that TBRI is the key to the work I am so passionate about with children from hard places. (adopted, foster, abused, neglected.....you get the... Continue Reading →