Being born in 1965, during the Baby Scoop Era of adoption, there were many secrets. Here is a graph outlining what happened during that time, and into today regarding adoptions. I am a person who does not have their original birth certificate ( OBC ). It is sealed by the state of Nevada. I have... Continue Reading →
Have you ever been hungry for something really good....but you have no idea what that really good thing might be? Then, someone asks you, "What do you want to eat?" And you say, "something good....but I don't know what....." This is the best way I can describe what it is like to search for something... Continue Reading →
As a clinician working with children in foster care, I have seen children placed, removed, moved, placed, removed, moved placed, removed in foster homes over and over again. Often, this causes the child to retreat within themselves, losing trust in the system and in adults...and in themselves. I call these incidents of interruption Attachment Injuries. ... Continue Reading →
During the month of November, I will have a daily blog about the Adoptee Experience. I hope you will read, share, think and engage with Adoptees as the Experts on Adoption. We have lived it every day of our lives.
I had the privilege of being interviewed by Haley Radke with the Adoptees On podcast recently and my 1st episode in a 2 part series on Grief airs today. You can listen here: //html5-player.libsyn.com/embed/episode/id/7039617/height/300/theme/custom/autoplay/no/autonext/no/thumbnail/yes/preload/no/no_addthis/no/direction/backward/render-playlist/yes/custom-color/0079b6/ As always, I hope for and welcome your feedback. And, stay tuned! In 2 weeks, part II of our conversation will... Continue Reading →
Just let the title of this blog writing sink into your brain. "Shame is a thermostat: if it fails to function, regulation of relationships becomes impossible." Suzanne Retzinger Shame is NOT an Emotion. Does this surprise you as much as it did me? Let me explain from a Gestalt perspective what I have learned. Shame... Continue Reading →
“What will you do with your one precious, wild life?” Mary Oliver Things have been happening in my life at warp speed right now. Anne Heffron told me recently that "this is my time." I agree with her. The thing about it being "my time" is I am seeking experiences, I am paying attention,... Continue Reading →
27 years ago today, I had a baby!! As an adopted person, I worried about becoming a parent. I had so many questions: Could I love a child? Would I wonder what my birth mother felt when I was born? What DID she feel?. Would this baby look like my birth mother or father? Would... Continue Reading →