I found a white whisker on my chin. To some, this may be an annoyance. To others, it may be a reminder of aging. To still others, it may mean that it is time to get a facial. To me, it made me tear up and become emotional. Now, this is not the first time... Continue Reading →
2019 ~ New Start, Reflections and Adoptedness
I got off track somewhere in the middle of November. I had made a goal to write every day during National Adoption Awareness Month....and here it is January 1, 2019 and I have not written in a long time. There is a reason. My dad fell, he spent some time in the hospital and rehab,... Continue Reading →
Things you should not say to an Adoptee for $500, Alex
These are just a few of the things that have been said to me over the years: What is, "You look like your adopted mom / dad?" What is, "I bet you are glad your mother wasn't pregnant after Roe vs Wade!" (seriously, this was said to me....) What is, "I know an adoptee and... Continue Reading →
Adoptees – On Being “A Mistake”
Many adoptees have been told in their lives that they are a mistake. That their birth mother "got in trouble," and that this "trouble" was a "mistake." What the adopted person hears is - "YOU are / were the trouble," and "YOU are / were the mistake." Those who are reading and who are not... Continue Reading →
Adoptees and their Sense of Self – “Where do I fit in?”
Adopted children and adults have as sense of vulnerability that many in the non-adopted world do not have. This vulnerability comes from being removed from their biological family and then not being fully anchored in a family. This type of vulnerability is different than the type that allows a person to be open and share... Continue Reading →
Adoptee Connect and Why Adoptees NEED Community
This blog post is dedicated to Adoptee Connect with a heart full of gratitude. In September of 2018, a group of 5 people sat around a table. You could feel the nervous energy. This was the first official meeting of the Las Vegas Adoptee Connect Support group. I knew this was the start of something important.... Continue Reading →
Adoptees are Super Heroes and SHEroes
I am a person who loves Marvel, DC, Star Wars, and all super power, good vs evil type movies. I grew up watching the ORIGINAL Bat Man series (ka-boom, slam, wap...etc) and I love superhero metaphors in my therapy practice. Superhero Therapy is the BEST! In 2017, I found my biological family and my how-I-came-to-be... Continue Reading →
The Core Wounding of Adoption
I have been mulling a pair of words in my mind for a long while now. These words are: CORE WOUNDING This term came out several months ago in a therapy session my therapist. The reason I have been thinking about this for some time is because of how I felt in my body when... Continue Reading →
Adoptees: To Trust or Not to Trust? That is the Question
If an adoptee trusts you, really trusts you, consider yourself the exception to the rule. For myself, and many other adoptees, trust does not come easily, or it is given so quickly that trust turns into betrayal. It may seem as though this sentence contradicts itself, but it is so true. Adoptees have been betrayed... Continue Reading →