I got off track somewhere in the middle of November. I had made a goal to write every day during National Adoption Awareness Month....and here it is January 1, 2019 and I have not written in a long time. There is a reason. My dad fell, he spent some time in the hospital and rehab,... Continue Reading →
Dear Pregnant Mother Considering Adoption- guest Blogger Kristin Jones
Today we welcome Kristin Jones, CMHC of Tradewinds Counseling as a guest blogger. She has written a powerful letter to women considering adoption. Dear pregnant mother considering adoption- If you are thinking about adoption as an option, you are most likely experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. I imagine it would be incredibly difficult to be faced... Continue Reading →
Adoptee Voices are Rising
I had the best dream about what I was going to blog about today, (Saturday) but then I woke up, the dog was scratching on my door for breakfast and my brain lost all the good blogging thoughts I had. I scrolled through Facebook and every post, I swear, was by an adoptee friend lighting up... Continue Reading →
Things you should not say to an Adoptee for $500, Alex
These are just a few of the things that have been said to me over the years: What is, "You look like your adopted mom / dad?" What is, "I bet you are glad your mother wasn't pregnant after Roe vs Wade!" (seriously, this was said to me....) What is, "I know an adoptee and... Continue Reading →
Adoptees – On Being “A Mistake”
Many adoptees have been told in their lives that they are a mistake. That their birth mother "got in trouble," and that this "trouble" was a "mistake." What the adopted person hears is - "YOU are / were the trouble," and "YOU are / were the mistake." Those who are reading and who are not... Continue Reading →
Adoptees and their Sense of Self – “Where do I fit in?”
Adopted children and adults have as sense of vulnerability that many in the non-adopted world do not have. This vulnerability comes from being removed from their biological family and then not being fully anchored in a family. This type of vulnerability is different than the type that allows a person to be open and share... Continue Reading →
Adoptee Connect and Why Adoptees NEED Community
This blog post is dedicated to Adoptee Connect with a heart full of gratitude. In September of 2018, a group of 5 people sat around a table. You could feel the nervous energy. This was the first official meeting of the Las Vegas Adoptee Connect Support group. I knew this was the start of something important.... Continue Reading →
Change is Hard for Many Adoptees
In the Rocky 4 movie, Rocky has a memorable quote after he has finally beaten the Russian boxer Ivan Drago. Rocky is bloody, sweaty and exhausted, then he says to the Russian audience, "If I can change, and you can change, everybody can change...." This quote is important. Not just because it comes from a... Continue Reading →
11-09 ~ My Birthday is on World Adoption Day. (adoptee challenge below!)
53 years ago today, at 6:35 am in Henderson, Nevada, I was born. Today is my birthday. For 51 years of my life, on my birthday, I would have a personal dialogue in my mind. It went something like this: "Today is the day. My birthday! I know she (my birth mother) is wondering and... Continue Reading →